Floral Bomber and Some Thoughts on Sincerity

Jacket: Eshakti c/o here; Tank: Kaitlyn, similar here and here; Jean: Forever 21 (Men’s and DIY distressed), similar here and here; Shoes: Love D, almost exact here

Guys. (I mean girls. But I feel like if I said that it wouldn’t sound the same. 😛 ) I love this jacket. So much. I had been wanting a floral bomber for a while because I had seen some super cute ones floating through my news feed. So when I was browsing Eshakti and saw this, I had to get it. So what is amazing about Eshakti is that they have CUSTOM sizing! So you can literally get a piece of clothing fit just right to your body type! For my jacket I was able to decided which size suited my body type and pick that one. I even could have put in my exact measurements as well! So say you happened to have longer arms but wear a small size, you can choose to have the arms made longer! It is seriously amazing to find a company that literally tailors to your size because I know a lot of times I don’t purchase products because they are too long, short, wide etc! Go check them out! I also had my eye on a few of their midi skirts!

Now onto something a little more serious than clothing. Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about sincerity. Namely internet sincerity. The internet is a funny place. We can literally be WHOEVER we want to be and say whatever we want, and we will most likely never come in contact with a good portion of the those in our internet circle. I cannot tell you how many times I have been incredibly shocked (and downright incensed for that matter), at the comments I see on various people’s Instagrams and blogs that are extremely hurtful and completely unnecessary. Don’t you remember Mama’s saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”? I have yet to have too many rude comments but I have had a few, and as much as you try to tell yourself that these people are just insecure and not happy with themselves so out comes this mean spirit, it still kinda stings. I remember the first day I got a legitimately rude comment on a photo. I immediately deleted it and blocked the person. I told a friend and my hubby and thought I would just “Shake it off, shake it off”, but I thought about it a lot throughout the day. (P.S. Tay tay, if you’re reading, can you PLEASE tell me how you do it? :P) As much as it wasn’t true or whatever, it still hurt that someone would be ok with saying something mean to me when they don’t even know me. I don’t know about you, but I want to be someone who GIVES life, not takes it away. We are all putting ourselves out there which is hard in and of itself (No, modeling is not my job, and if I could show you the number of photos where I look constipated or mad, you would see that I am not lying. 😛 ). It’s a big risk to make a blog and post photos of yourself and wonder what people will think of you. So receiving mean comments doesn’t help.

Even further than not leaving mean comments though, I wish we would all be sincere in the comments we leave. I leave comments on people’s photos whom I genuinely really like and have something to say to. And I like the photos I actually LIKE. Yes, we are all trying to gain a following for our blogs and Instagrams. We work so hard at what we do, and of course we want people to see it and appreciate it! So yes, if I leave a comment on something, it would be wonderful if one or two people might notice me and click on my Instagram and follow me. BUT I do not leave the comment for that sole purpose. I leave the comment because I actually MEAN it. Every day, I get comments on my photos that I would say are insincere and just a way to try to get noticed. To be completely honest, I’m way more likely to notice the person who says something to me that seems genuine! When I think about sincerity, two Bible verses come to mind (hey, and even if you don’t read the Bible, I’m pretty sure you can get behind these):

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29

Rejoice with those who rejoice… Romans 12:15

What if we really thought about what we were saying and how it would affect a person before we spoke and even more so before we commented? (I feel like we are way more likely to say something online as opposed to someone in person.) We all are in need of encouragement and affirmation! Be genuine! This world is so in need of real, genuine people who rejoice with those who do well and are sincerely happy for someone’s success, even if it’s just a cute photo! So join me in striving to be more aware of how what you say can affect a person,and go spread some genuine love and comments and let people know you see their hard work and appreciate them!